Category Archives: “Judging”
William Bruce Jenner was an Olympic athlete, sports commentator, and actor. He was best known for starring in the Keeping Up with the Kardashians reality show. Recently, Mr. Jenner all but disappeared. His achievements are on the public record, but the man himself no longer exists.
Jenner’s final act is what the media and lots of people are calling heroic and courageous. He didn’t give competing against the world’s greatest athletes another shot. He didn’t look for cars submerged in the Texas floods to rescue people from, either. Bruce Jenner, at 65, decided to live the rest of his life as a woman named Caitlyn.
As such, the former Bruce Jenner has decided to brave the single greatest fear imaginable. Caitlyn will now rock stilettos in public at the risk of people possibly laughing or saying something unflattering. There it is. Somebody might “judge” Caitlyn, and merely facing that possibility is a courageous and heroic act.
For this, the now Ms. Jenner is to receive an ESPY award for courage*, beating out an Iraq vet and a young lady basketball player who died from cancer. Hollywood stars are flooding cyberspace with their “support” (after mocking Bruce for years). And only the cruelest transphobe wouldn’t give Kris Jenner’s ex-husband props for not looking better than her.
Apparently, risking the ridicule of others in public is a heroic and courageous act. Hurt feelings is the greatest fear Americans face. America is doing quite alright if a man living as a woman is this courageous and the catalyst of yet another great and noble cause. That also means that Wal-Mart, block parties, and the mall are chock full of heroes.
*The same award was given last year to recent CFL recruit Michael Sam, who courageously told people he was gay, also heroically risking judgement and hurt feelings.
I constantly hear people talk about 1/3rd of men in a certain demographic dare likely to end up in jail. Some use it as a criticism, others use it as an excuse. NEITHER side dares bring up the 2/3rds that never go. That’ll kill the conversation.
Depending on who kills you, you can matter a lot more dead than you ever could alive.
Incidentally, many who mourn the police brutality death of another demographic would never do so for one of their own. Why? Because they know to disdain their own criminals.
The ultimate “supremacist” move? Leave the thug worship to lesser beings, and feel sorry for them when they do. They can’t help themselves.
To publicly say what other people say privately has a 50/50 chance of getting you paid-or fired. Telling people EXACTLY what they want to hear, and holding your laughter until you’re someplace private, is job security.
It’s a damned fool who would trust a chef they just sued to cook anything for them.
If your religion prohibits you from doing something, another person’s religion may demand it.
Ever notice how selective “nonjudgemental” people are about what they eat and who they mingle with?
Truth and kindness are seldom used simultaneously.
There should be marked differences between self-described opponents. Otherwise, one of you is just a store brand version of the other. And that’s about the only thing you two can debate.
Next time, what two guys named Richard taught me about being a hero- or more specifically, NOT being one…
In 2008, I was driving a cab. A fellow driver named Skip and I were sitting up at the airport discussing a certain potentially historic event. “If that m__________r gets elected, watch White folks start acting just like n!gg&hs. They’ve been wanting to for a while.” Now, Skip was/is a retired guy who only drives a cab to avoid going stir crazy. He also does it to keep his father’s business going. Guys like him talk junk, but they do so from experience. Here’s a guy who grew up in the segregated South who had seen all types of people by now. And he had to know something to last this damned long.
Not too long ago, NFL Hall of Famer Deion Sanders stated that much-hyped college football star Johnny Manziel would have problems in the NFL. Sanders stated that “Johnny Football” has ghetto tendencies. By this, he meant Manziel’s bravado and flair. Inexplicably, Sanders felt the need to deny the comment, made on a morning radio show. He wasn’t lying, though. When Manziel got sent to the Cleveland Browns at the NFL Draft, he did act rather ghetto. It’s just that the term is rarely used to describe a Caucasoid.
I see where Skip and Deion were coming from. Ghetto mentality is not a product solely for poor people, or even just Black people. Anybody can be ghetto. Really, when comparing scenarios and words common in the ghetto/hood, lined up beside what’s on display in “mainstream” society, it’s actually easy to spot the similarities.
“I don’t give a damn what anybody says about me!” (Five minutes later…) “I know he/she ain’t talkin’ no sh!t!” The same person who puts all their business and “only God can judge me” memes out blows a damned gasket every time somebody says something. Be it Bookie on the corner, the showboat abortionist, or evangelical house-flippers, the faux outrage and busybody foolishness occurs in spades.
A Black, unmarried mother of two picking a fight with somebody over some “he said, she said” sh!t… What do people call her? Ghetto. If said woman has a college degree, she’s a “strong Black woman”. If they’ve got a radio room or television camera on them, they’re called a host. But when some nominal LGBTetc. or Tea Party acolyte does the same thing, they’re vocal, maybe even a troll, but never ghetto. May I ask why not?
“My man better have this, this, and this,”. (Three months later…) “At least I got a man” or “I need a man”. Tea Party zealots are still hoping out for the next Ronald Wilson Reagan. In the meantime, they’ve thrown those legs open for anybody that can quote the catch phrases. And just like ol’ girl, they have little to show for it. Both are sitting around waiting for Captain Save-a-Ho to rescue them. And they better get comfortable.
“RIP”… Speaking of Reagan, ghetto dwellers have no real future to look forward to. So they sit around asking themselves “what if” about somebody they want around, and “what was” about somebody long gone. They seldom face “what is”. When they finally do, it’s only a temporal, situational remedy that never worked in the past. That, of course, makes things even worse. But being ghetto cuts you off from ever learning any different.
The shamed White preacher in the urban church… because nobody else will have him. Would you believe there are people who actually write for a gay conservative website one-upping each other insulting “gay-sex marriage”, with the approval of the website moderation itself? Sadly, neither party sees the absurdity or irony in it. But hey, they’ve got that understanding, right?
“Here comes Becky!” The affluent White female who carouses with Black men out of rebellion doesn’t love Black folks, and won’t acknowledge them around certain folks, but once she’s in the hood, it’s on. And again, everybody’s got that understanding. She’ll always be welcome there if nowhere else. Why, I know of some progressives and even some NAACP supporters who look down on minorities and fXck them, too.
When I use terms like “Afrocentrists” or “activist crowd”, I do so to point out the certain segments of people who create problems for those they’re most frequently associated with. I also do so to emphasize why I refuse to comply with it. I make a point of not saying “Black people” because not all Black people are alike, nor are all LGBTetc., White, Hispanic, Latino, on and on. But ghetto is definitely a universal term. It can, and should, be used to describe anybody who fits it.
The fact that even the most educated, articulate, and affluent people are conducting themselves like common hood rats is hardly a sign of “progress”. One of the worst aspects of ghetto life is how it cuts people off from one another, yet has them unknowingly pretty much acting the exact same way. Hopefully, people will get out of their mental ghettos and avoid waking up one day in a physical one.
As 2013 comes to a thankful end, I’d like to look back at five of the most popular, and equally absurd, sayings of the year. These sayings got a lot of use primarily after people ran out of ways to justify their own or their pop icons’ questionable activities. Rather than face accountability, thereby disrupting the fantasies, the accused/guilty came up with what they thought were witty responses. Giving them a second glance, they’re anything but. Some are old, others are variations of old ones, but none are new. And just for fun, I challenge anybody to use the top (or bottom, depending on how you see it) two absurdities in court.
Honorable Mention: “LEARN OUR LANGUAGE!”– Actor Alec Baldwin knew and used all the LGBT activist catchphrases in public (“EQUALITY!””BIGOTRY!”, etc.), and did the mandatory Sarah Palin cussing. He was a mainstream darling. As is often the case with such “allies”, he had a different vocabulary in private. That’s the easiest way to pimp political correctness addicts: use their language on the clock, then turn off Twitter and use your home words. What folks don’t hear can’t hurt them. Notice, Phil.
#5: “(S)HE’S A GREAT AMERICAN!”– The requirements for such a title are dirt low. All you really have to do is slam a political or religious figure, and somebody will call you that. Even if you’re a Canadian reading Dr. Seuss.
#4: “STOP CORPORATIONS!”– This is the mantra of many of those who started Black Friday shopping for XBox Ones at 4 a.m. They feed the beast, and wonder why it lives. They’re fueled by envy over a corporation’s money or influence (especially if “their corporate guy” loses something); guilt for working in, or benefiting from, a corporation (Occupiers); or when their Mass for Christ shopping financially catches up with them.
#3: “EQUALITY!”– It’s a cute mantra for insecure people, but a mathematical impossibility. Joe and David may make the same salary, but Joe’s taller. Joe and David are thereby not equal. No law can make David taller (or more popular with people), either. The closest they’ll ever get to “equality” is if they both die and go to Colab.
#2: “JUDGE NOT!/ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME!”– Try saying this in a courtroom. This is the late Tupac Shakur and needy f*cker anthem. The person saying this is usually trying to be provocative. The unwanted “judgement” is what they thought was going to be acclaim for their antics. Oh, and I challenge any “non-judgmental” person to grab the first homeless guy they see, take him home, and lay him.
#1: “THEY DO IT!”– The person saying this can ultimately justify ANYTHING their pal does. All they need is somebody they don’t like doing it to justify their own participation. “So? White folks sell dope, too! I know pastors more sexually inappropriate than this guy! What about the Muslims?” (And yes, I’ve observed people going there.) Such a mentality lets anything go. And it usually does under such auspices. Only a hit dog would howl this to try to take the heat off themselves. Going by the lowest common denominator only works in math.
It’s sad that people aren’t more creative in covering their asses. This may sound odd, but it might just be easier to… well, stop doing it. Just a thought. Thank you for reading.